The Memory Closet Technique is about living an extraordinary life and being able to reach out to your superpowers on demand. It helps you tap into your inner resources and bring out the best qualities that you need for a particular situation. This exercise is for anyone that wants to become free of guilt and blame about behavior patterns that are no longer serving them.
Great for:
- People who have unwanted behaviors such as overeating.
- People without the discipline to stick to healthy habits or positive behaviors.
- People who lack a quality they need to accomplish their goals.
So many people are lacking self-confidence these days. This leads to unwanted patterns of behavior that then lead to guilt and even more of the unwanted pattern of behavior. This then leads to even more guilt and, as a result, to even lower self-esteem 먹튀검증.
We don’t realize that low self-esteem is a result of our own judgments and the pressure we put on ourselves. Not only do we achieve less and become less productive, ultimately we develop low self-esteem that can create a wide spectrum of unfortunate events and experiences for us.
People usually blame themselves for their inability to control their behavior and as a result think they don’t deserve this lifestyle, this job, this body and, ultimately, this life.
My life mission is to show people that they are enough and that they are able to reach positive inner states that will empower them and make them “super human” in their own way.
The Memory Closet Technique helps you to create a powerful inner identity that you can access on demand to feel more confident. So many people think their behavior is no longer serving them and yet they keep their old patterns and blame themselves. This exercise allows you to tap into your inner resources (or someone else’s inner resources) and bring out your best qualities to help you effectively deal with the situation you are dealing with.
Step 1: Identify your current and desired state
1. Identify the problem state you are currently experiencing, e.g. shyness, lack of ideas, trouble concentrating at work. Find out when the problem occurred for the 1st time, in the past, by remembering in detail when the problem occurred, where and under what circumstances.
2. Identify the resourceful state that will serve the problem the best by realizing which state/mood would work to make this situation better, what qualities you would need to obtain to make sure you are capable of dealing with the situation. For example, you might need more confidence, concentration or creativity.
Step 2: Your wardrobe of resourceful “outfits”
Envision that you have a wardrobe with resourceful “outfits”. These outfits allow you to obtain or enhance qualities you are lacking or you need to increase in order to complete a task or situation with ease and confidence. For example, a shy person might need an outfit of a superman, and a person who needs to enhance his creativity might want to try on Walt Disney’s suit.
1. ‘Anchor’ the gesture for your wardrobe to become available to you by choosing one point on your body and tapping there with your finger. An anchor can be made anywhere and it is a good idea to avoid “beaten path” areas of the body such as knees, shoulders and hands (these parts of the body are usually highly accessible for others and may trigger unwanted anchors when they are not requested). Instead, look for uncommon spots on the body such as tip of the nose, between the eyebrows, or under the ear to set up an anchor there. Keep in mind that once the anchor is set you will be able to access it automatically without thinking and the effect will last all your life unless it is collapsed on purpose.
2. Envision an outfit with your desired resourceful state and put it on.
Step 3: Go back to the 1st time when you experienced the problem
1. Identify the timeline in space where your future/past is located by standing up and pointing it out. Keep in mind that for some people the future is located to their right and past to their left, but it could be the opposite. For some people the future is out in front and the past is to their back.
2. Wearing the resourceful outfit, step on the timeline and close your eyes. Go into the past to the 1st time the problem occurred.
3. Open your eyes when you’ve reached that first time. How do you feel having those resources available at that moment? (Check the anchor by pressing on the selected point on the body to make sure that by pressing the anchor the needed resources are triggered and become available).
Step 4: Go to the present moment wearing the resourceful “outfit”
1. Go back to the present moment wearing the same resourceful outfit. See how having that resource available changes the meaning of your problem and your ability to resolve it.
2. From the present moment, still wearing your resourceful outfit, look back and see how life has shifted for you. You are now a victor instead of a victim of your own thoughts and mind.
Step 5: Bring the resourceful “outfit” into the future
Imagine yourself in the future utilizing all the skills that you have acquired by wearing this outfit. See yourself 5, 10, 15 years into the future.
Case study
John had trouble concentrating at work and came to me for help and assistance to become more concentrated during his work hours. We discovered that he was very good at concentrating when he was playing golf so we used that as his new resourceful state.
John envisioned a wardrobe with a selection of “concentration” suits and I anchored John's finger for the wardrobe to be available at any time he needed it. John tried his golfing suit on and it made him feel more concentrated and sharp. He identified his timeline as the past being left and the future being right, and remembered the first time he lost concentration was because he was very bored at his job.
As soon as John remembered his first time of not being concentrated I asked him to open his eyes and recall how his feelings evolved once the concentration suit had become available to him. I walked John through his timeline and suggested to open his eyes in the present moment still utilizing his new skill set. He realized how having an ability to reach out to this enhanced state of concentration at any time would change his life. He started to look differently at his situation, after he became aware of his ability to choose to concentrate at any time.
Tips for coaches:
- Make sure your client has enough space to move freely back and forth and up and down
- Quiet place is recommended and the exercise should not be interrupted once started for best results.
